Personality impairment in children

Personality impairment in children

The child may cry a lot without reason, find it difficult to mix with others, or it is difficult to express his opinion and hesitate to ask for what he desires even if he is from his family and those close to him, or he hates making decisions and requests help from another person in making it, or remains inherent to his mother When going out to an event or a public place, or it can be easily and specially exploited by his friends, all these signs indicate his weak personality, a problem that many children suffer from for various reasons we will mention in this article in addition to suggested solutions to it.

Causes of personality impairment in children

 Many factors cause the child's personality to be weak, including:

• Protecting the extra parents of the child and not allowing him to learn through experience, and performing simple duties and tasks for him, such as arranging the bed, organizing games or wearing shoes, which accustom the child to depend on his family and reduces his confidence and thus creates a weak personality.
• Parents send inadvertently negative and false messages, which are the result of their fear for him, such as if parents say that he is still a young child and will not be able to do something, or to tell him that the outside world is frightening and he cannot go out alone, which sows fear in his heart and weakens him And he loses confidence in his abilities.
• The child was subjected to physical or psychological violence, where at that time he is afraid of expressing himself in order not to be beaten or insulted and negative messages are planted in it such as: (You are not entitled to express yourself) or (You will be punished if you speak).
•  Raising the expectations of parents from the child and their constant search for perfection, and their dissatisfaction with his nature and abilities, whatever he tries, which causes him to surrender and not try to know that he will not reach the perfection required of his parents.
• He was subjected to an emotional shock that greatly affected him and led him to be weak as a result of losing a sense of safety, such as experiencing an accident or losing someone dear to him as one of his parents.

Treating personality impairment in children

In order to strengthen your child's personality, it is necessary to follow some methods that help you in treating them, including:

• Give your child personal freedom and leave him or her to make some simple decisions related to him or at home, such as asking him to choose a lunch for this day or choosing the shoes that he will wear, and make sure you follow the option he made.
• Teach him basic skills for life, such as: social and personal skills, and teach him appropriate methods to defend himself if he is subjected to psychological or physical harm.
• Let him express himself and his feelings, whether he is angry or happy in his own way, and do not criticize him for it. 
• He taught him some problem-solving skills with others and taught him to apologize if he was wrong and to review who was wrong with him.